Are You Playing the Odds?

I stood on the sidelines in a cloud of smoke, scantily-costumed waitresses and flashing lights and thought about my life and what level of risk I normally take. A good friend once told me, “If you’re going to live, live!” The great Marvin Gaye once sang: “Since we’ve got to be here, lets live.”

I thought, how often did I just drop a coin, which could represent my guard or my ego, at the longest of odds? Very few times. Yet I always, as if entitled to it, expected a big pay off.

When it comes to dating and relationships, the hookup is still alive and easy, but the dates (or the men, I should say) of today expect a little effort to establish and grow anything significant. They expect risk and proof that all gay men aren’t clichés, sex feines, false ads or full of golden dust.

Read the entire post at Ramon Johnson’s About.com Gay Life Blog!